By February 14, 2019Consulting, Matchmaking

Valentine goes along with Sweetheart.   SWEET HEART.

What is the sweetness level in your heart? Depleted? Half full perhaps, but leaking out quickly? Or is the sweetness of your heart seeping out slowly? Dead-end dating and past experiences can start making our hearts bitter.  Don’t let it happen to you!

Bitter Heart Syndrome

We become skeptical, suspicious, resentful and even angry! We hesitate at the next person that comes along wondering “What will this dud bring this time?”

How can past hurt, disappointment, frustrations, even outright lies not have any affect on us?? After all, we are not super human.


Stay strong! Don’t let that sweetness seep out. Don’t become a bitter victim.  It is unappealing and affects everything and everyone around you. No one wants to be around the crabby complainer, the ice queen, the uncontrollable crier, the fowl mouthed B or the friend fixer and know it all. Trust me, we would all rather run from that person but perhaps are too polite to make a dash for the door. 


How do we save it or refill it?  Just as in anything…how are you spending your time?

Are you allowing reality TV, fictional series, even real life friends, who may be in relationship distress, fill your time? We may welcome this because we feel comforted that it happens to others as well. We start to relish in misery. Misery loves company.

What are you watching ? What are you reading? Are you working on building that wall so that you are prepared for the NEXT disaster date? Are you keeping yourself so busy that you don’t even have to think about things? Are you filling your social media with date- bashing? Are you critical of life itself?!

Instead, focus on the positive! Yes, yes. You hear this all the time! 

But let’s flip it to FUN. Who are you surrounded by? Where’s a new place that you spend some time? Who makes you laugh? Who inspires you? What makes you smile? What are some of the best times you remember?

Mathew Kelly, motivational speaker, suggests to make a list of what makes you happy.  Now do more of THAT! Quite simple, right? Just start. Take that one step to refill your heart…or you have nothing to give.

“An empty heart can only attract NOTHING at all.”  Asta Timm


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