Valentine goes along with Sweetheart. SWEET HEART.
What is the sweetness level in your heart? Depleted? Half full perhaps, but leaking out quickly? Or is the sweetness of your heart seeping out slowly? Dead-end dating and past experiences can start making our hearts bitter. Don’t let it happen to you!
Bitter Heart Syndrome
We become skeptical, suspicious, resentful and even angry! We hesitate at the next person that comes along wondering “What will this dud bring this time?”
How can past hurt, disappointment, frustrations, even outright lies not have any affect on us?? After all, we are not super human.
Stay strong! Don’t let that sweetness seep out. Don’t become a bitter victim. It is unappealing and affects everything and everyone around you. No one wants to be around the crabby complainer, the ice queen, the uncontrollable crier, the fowl mouthed B or the friend fixer and know it all. Trust me, we would all rather run from that person but perhaps are too polite to make a dash for the door.
How do we save it or refill it? Just as in anything…how are you spending your time?
Are you allowing reality TV, fictional series, even real life friends, who may be in relationship distress, fill your time? We may welcome this because we feel comforted that it happens to others as well. We start to relish in misery. Misery loves company.
What are you watching ? What are you reading? Are you working on building that wall so that you are prepared for the NEXT disaster date? Are you keeping yourself so busy that you don’t even have to think about things? Are you filling your social media with date- bashing? Are you critical of life itself?!
Instead, focus on the positive! Yes, yes. You hear this all the time!
But let’s flip it to FUN. Who are you surrounded by? Where’s a new place that you spend some time? Who makes you laugh? Who inspires you? What makes you smile? What are some of the best times you remember?
Mathew Kelly, motivational speaker, suggests to make a list of what makes you happy. Now do more of THAT! Quite simple, right? Just start. Take that one step to refill your heart…or you have nothing to give.
“An empty heart can only attract NOTHING at all.” Asta Timm
Ah February- the time of the year that puts hearts in your face no matter where you go! Hearts everywhere- the checkout of your local grocery store, favorite coffee shop, even the vet. The pressure is on! Find love in the next few weeks or stare “failure” in the face, jump on the “I hate Valentine’s Day” bandwagon or act too cool to care. This year, slow your roll to despair and let the happy couples wait in anticipatory giddiness. Cheers to them and to you as well!
No lecture here, no positive thinking mantra or scheduled self-reflection time. This February, the challenge is to lighten up…RELAX! It is simply just not your time yet. So rather than lamenting, spiraling down a deep hole , attending a V-Day bashing party-treat YOURSELF. Buy yourself the decadent chocolate heart, the red velvet cupcake, that special red dress or fantastic red tie. February 14th will pass! Instead of black balling it, welcome it. Your positive attitude towards this simple holiday will open you to receiving the love that IS out there for you! Stay open to happiness and who knows what next February will bring, so practice positively this year. After all, preparation and practice is the key to success!
Happy love month! Treat yourself! And do share in the comments. ABSOLUTELY would love to hear about how great you made your Valentine’s Day.
Still stuck in the Valentine’s Day Dumps? ABSOLUTELY is here! Reach out…we just may have a plan for you!